Cold Creek Swimmer

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  It's not you....it's me....so a damn good marriage is about to end...

  by oompa in

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  i just dont think i can take it anymore....my wife of 11 years is such a great gal... but we are just not connecting anymore......otwo says hang in there...as she may come around and wake up!!

  !....but the extreme differences in our lifes are starting to take a toll...and may be making me want to drink too much.....i should not need to self medicate like this!!

  !.....soooooo wish i had never woken up or could just deal with the real truth....what a rock to my world.......nothing will be the same.................................................oompa.

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  Jesus Christ Oompa! Suck it up! You love your wife, do all the things you can do with her and make sure there is a connection beyond the dubs. It's easy to sit and cry in your beer, but much more difficult to ttry and get past the differences. Let her be her and enjoy the things you can...together. If that isn't gonna work, then man up and move on. Don't sit around with your thumb up your ass wondering what life would be like if this or that or whatever. Here's a cliche for you:Life is what you make it. Good advice. Pull your head out of the bottle and get on with life. You've got kids to think of. Make sure they think well of you and everything else will fall into place. That's all the advice you're gonna get from Dr. Cold Creek. I can say these things because I already live your life-but without the booze.

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  How many finally feel comfortable in their own skin?

  by dinah in

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  took awhile didnt it?.

  at what point did you ever look in a mirror and thank yourself for working through this?

  it took me about 5 years after i finally realized the wt was a sham.

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  I just turned 41. Took me till I was 39 to finally understand and accept myself. That all came about by finally realizing that I do not have to live my life worried about what others think of me or worry about how they perceive my actions. Once I realized that, I no longer cared what others thought, I was able to move on and accept me for who I am. I know me now. I like who I am. I don't care what others think-take me or leave me, I am who I am.

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  How long do you stay in love?

  by Thegoodgirl in

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  i have a question:.

  how long do you stay in love?

  for those of you who are married, are you together "just for the kids"?

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  I agree with Dawg. Forever. I've been married for 20 years. Love my wife more now than ever before. Can't imagine life without her. Here's the deal though. I still love my 1st love. Not the same woman. Wouldn't trade my wife for anyone, but I will never forget what it felt like to be in love for the 1st time. If I saw her now, I'd give her a big hug and tell her what a great life I have. No regrets, I just realize that feelings don't really go away-they just get put aside for reality. We can live in the present or make ourselves miserable with the "what might have beens".

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  Slowly but surely...

  by nvrgnbk in

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  word is spreading.. the elder that works with me told me that a ministerial servant in his congo asked him about the un scandal.. he confirmed to the brother that the watchtower was involved with the un but later disassociated itself and warned him that not all elders would handle his question so discreetly.. i doubt we'll see the cult disappear, but it's encouraging to see that many are waking up and are at least asking some difficult questions..

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  Oompa,

  Here is my question to you: If going swimming at the Y is considered apostasy, then how can they actually join and promote the very organization that they claim is the whore of babylon and the wild beast of revelation? The very offspring of Satan as it were? I just wanna go swimming. They think I'm getting innerfaith treatment. Yet they become a member of this "Horrible terrible" organization and it's status quo for them. Do the math.

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  Favorite books of all time....?

  by inkling in

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  ok, so i'm looking for a new book to start reading.... any genre, any style.. what are you favorite books of all time?.

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  Pillars of the Earth- Ken Follet

  Stranger in a Strange Land- Robert Heinlein
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  Egoism - An Essay by John Robinson

  by eclipse in

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  http://www.alamut.com/subj/the_self/misc/egoism.html.

  robinson: egoism .

  egoism .

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  Eclipse,

  Outstanding article. Thank you for bringing this type of quality essay to this board. Articles of tis sort are the things that really cause an individual to really think and look at themselves objectively and see where they fit in, in the grand scheme of things. Again, thank you. I would expect nothing less from you.

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  A calmer, more serene, moment in time.....

  by AK - Jeff in

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  four weeks ago, my only child, my daughter, was asked to leave my home.

  it was tough love.

  she has spent the previous 3 years incarcerated.

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  You and your wife are exceptional people. Those children are blessed to have grandparents like the both of you. Thank you for being such a great example of what love is really all about.

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  I'm new!

  by uhoh08 in

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  hi everyone.

  this is my first entry but i just wanted to know if any of you been able to convince your friends to come out of the "truth" and realize the society for what it really is?

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  Welcome, and yes. 2 very close friends(married) and their children. I only wish I could get my own family out. Enjoy your time here, there is much to learn.

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  My recent 7 paragraph letter to my parents, and their short reply. . .

  by Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit in

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  we haven't talked in 2 years, but i only email them smart little morsels about the gb etc that i get from you guys, you know, since i'm already not a fit associate why not try to educate them?!?!?!

  it's not necessary to read my whole letter to get to the point--his weak but kindly short response (that i waited for 4 days to get) where he spends most of his sentences explaining himself, and i hung on his every word, and i wrote back about what we've been doing, and 2 weeks have gone by and he's not responded to that.

  .and i check my email 10 times a day to see if he wrote back and nothing and i wonder.

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  Pioneer Spit,

  That was a beautifully painful letter that you sent to your father. I fail to see how any parent could continue to shun a child after reading such a heartfelt and honest letter. As I read your father's response, I could sense a ray of hope. He wants more than anything to have you in his life-he is struggling with what he has always been told is the right thing to do. I'm no apologist, but if you look back on your life, didn't you at one time feel the same way? I know I did-and will never be like that again.

  Your approach to him was very well done and definitely leaves him with the ability to do what comes easiest for dubs-rationalize. He can conceivably restart his relationship with you an the grounds that you are not practising sin and that socialization with you can become necesary family business. That makes it OK. Once that starts then the boundaries can be stretched just a bit to make it a little more comfortable. Seeing the unblemished and spiritually clean grandchild is a great reason to have you back in his life. I don't want to give you too much hope, but in your case it seems that something would be better than nothing. Hang in there and keep up your current line of reasoning. Any parent who loves his children as much as he clearly loves you will eventually cave and come around. It's all about the comfort zone and the ability to rationalize-hang in there and be patient.

  Beautiful letter. Thank you for sharing such a personal and private look at your pain. Our thoughts are with you.

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  This is All of Our " Let's Laugh at Something Funny " Thread-Feel Free

  by flipper in

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  so, at the end of a hard work week , i find it nice to have a cocktail, relax, and watch a comedy or tell funny stories !

  so i welcome you to share anything funny in your life that has happened !

  or someone else's life too !

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  What's the difference between a Brownnoser and a Buttkisser?

  Depth Perception

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